Category Archives: Identity

Love is me

Ok, universe – I give up.  Everything I try and love decides it does not want to be loved.  This leaves me, someone who wants to give away love, in a bit of a quandary. So here is the approach … Continue reading

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plan B: a personal manifesto

the conversation with an older male close friend: Me: “I’m not giving up, I’m just accepting that plan A doesn’t seem to be working for me, for whatever reason.  It’s time for something new.  Here’s the plan B:  I finish … Continue reading

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honorable

These were the initial questions I set out to answer with this blog.  I didn’t expect the answers to pop out like the answers on a Magic 8 ball, but there has been some popping recently. Q:  Can you live … Continue reading

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on fear

Reliability provides a measure of how often a system fails. Resilience provides a measure of how long failures will last, and vulnerability provides a measure of how severe failures may become.  -Storage Reservoir Behavior in the U.S., Vogel et al. … Continue reading

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Ordinariness

While motherhood is an incredible vocation, it has no more inherent worth than a childless woman simply being who she is, to the utmost of her capabilities. To think otherwise betrays a belief that being a thinking, creative, productive, and … Continue reading

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The best and worst

From a Facebook thread (a friend who leads a very different life than my own):  What is the best and worse thing you’ve simultaneously had to do? Woman #1:  Walking away from my job VERY close to being tenured that … Continue reading

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Maieutic

At the beach today, I saw all kinds of families.  Pregnant women with their boyfriends.  Groups of couples with their same-aged kids.  Babies in slings.  It is hard not to imagine in each and every case what it might be … Continue reading

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Divided Lives

This is an amazing, refreshing perspective on a possible set of measures that “define” a woman: Her job* Her relationship with a partner* Her relationship with her children* Time available for herself Her friends Her sense of home or place … Continue reading

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Identity

A post by bitterbabe has really gotten me thinking hard about identity, and what it means to be a woman.  She quotes a book that I haven’t read describing 3 types of women.  First, those that knew they wanted children … Continue reading

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An Introduction

Aloha, all. I am a 30-something in Hawaii watching, living, breathing, crying and clawing my way to understanding about what it is like to live a childfree existence in a very child-full world.  I may not end up childfree in … Continue reading

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