Author Archives: tidewater

About tidewater

thirty-something, mostly single, finding a path.

Loneliness, take 2

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar took an uncertain evening and made it magical with this wisdom post: If you think nobody loves you, know for sure that you are loved. The earth loves you; that’s why it is holding you upright. … Continue reading

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On traveling alone

Well, I decided to go ahead with it!  Me. In Colombia from July 31 to August 9.  I’ve never been to South America before. I was invited to a conference in Cali, Colombia, but I had to buy the airfare … Continue reading

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Love is me

Ok, universe – I give up.  Everything I try and love decides it does not want to be loved.  This leaves me, someone who wants to give away love, in a bit of a quandary. So here is the approach … Continue reading

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Happiness as your identity

Like many women, I like to talk my problems out.  I don’t think it solves anything, but it usually makes me feel better.  Recently, though, I have been trying a new strategy.  When I feel totally wretched about my life … Continue reading

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Mums the word

I love to tell a good story.  I sometimes feel like my life is just a collection of stories.  I attract eccentric people, and I love hearing people’s life path.  Hence, the attempt at the Portraits here on this blog. … Continue reading

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Parenting solo in the news An Associated Press-WE tv poll of people under 50 found that more than 2 in 5 unmarried women without children — or 42 percent — would consider having a child on their own without a partner, including more than … Continue reading

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Time passes.. things stay status quo

I thought to give up blogging, but I miss it!  The basic update:  I am very single, with all manner of men hovering like mosquitoes or hummingbirds, depending on the moment.  No sex, though – unless you count some pretty … Continue reading

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things you shouldn’t say

“Why don’t you just do it on your own? Men are pretty useless.”  – My well meaning sister Combines well with this article:  Thanks, bitterbabe. The simple fact – not that it is anyone’s damn business in the first place … Continue reading

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One to many

Visiting family is usually trying for me.  But this trip I’m on is only about hanging out with the nephews for a bit. It is a trip where the only goal is to be an auntie. I wasn’t sure how … Continue reading

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Sex. I don’t think the feminist movement that brought our society to this place really gave sex much thought at all.  It was “do it if you feel like it” – which completely fails to address the emotional side of … Continue reading

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